Overcommitting & Overwhelm: Big Rocks, Guilt, and Choosing What Matters

Liza and Wendy talk about that single-mom struggle we all know too well: overcommitting, feeling overwhelmed, and trying to fit everything into one life (kids, work, health, friendships, personal growth). Wendy shares real examples, Peloton rides with friends, a personal growth masterclass, and the guilt that comes with choosing. They unpack how priorities work (big rocks vs pebbles), why “doing both” can be the real cause of overwhelm, and how you can protect your energy without losing your integrity.

• Overwhelm often comes from trying to choose both (at any cost).

• Integrity isn’t perfection, it’s communication. You can restore integrity by updating people when plans change.

• “Big rocks vs pebbles” is a game-changer: prioritize what matters first, then the small stuff fits.

• The guilt usually shows up when you’re worried about letting people down or what others will think.

• Sometimes the best solution is: don’t cancel, find a way to get both (like recordings, reschedules, or time-blocking).

• Being present (even a few hours offline) is a skill, and it’s worth building.

• Self-care isn’t optional for single moms. It’s how you stay functional, calm, and human.

Try this today

The “Big Rocks Reset” (8 minutes):

1. Write your Big Rocks (top 3 priorities this week).

2. Write your Pebbles (the “feels productive” tasks).

3. Put 1 Big Rock on your calendar first (time-block it).

4. Choose one boundary for today:

   • “I’ll reply within 2–4 hours.”

   • “I’m offline for 90 minutes.”

5. If you need to change a commitment, send one clean message:

   • “Something came up. I can’t make it today, but I can ___.”
     End with: “I’m allowed to choose what matters.”
     

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